I have a gay uncle, a gay brother, a gay daughter, and a trans queer son. So I am not sure if this is National Coming Out Day or Our Big Family Holiday. What I do know is that I love this video, not only for what Tandi says about coming out but also for what she says about being a Unitarian Universalist.
My children have grown up in a time very different than my uncle and my brother. My children have a lot more freedom and choices than my uncle or my brother did. The world is a little bit safer for them and I am so glad for that. But still … there is so far to go. I worry a lot about my son who is also trans. Will he be safe, will he find his way in the world. I know that my daughter lives in a world where walking down the street and holding her partners hand is an act of defiance. When I think about that it blows my mind. An act of defiance. That is just not right.
So my act of defiance in this world is to lead a Religious Education program where children are accepted. Where I do not ask their gender. I do not ask who they are dating. I ask them instead what is important to them. I ask them to tell me about their dreams. I ask them to put their shoulder to the wheel and world a better place.
I hope that when they are older they will pass on their UU values to their children, or their nieces/nephews, or the children who they meet. And I hope they share their UU values with other adults too. Because really when I look around our kids get it. It is us adults who need to learn to love each other.