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Monthly Archives: October 2012

National Coming Out Day


I have a gay uncle, a gay brother, a gay daughter, and a trans queer son.  So I am not sure if this is National Coming Out Day or Our Big Family Holiday.  What I do know is that I love this video, not only for what Tandi says about coming out but also for what she says about being a Unitarian Universalist.

My children have grown up in a time very different than my uncle and my brother.  My children have a lot more freedom and choices than my uncle or my brother did.  The world is a little bit safer for them and I am so glad for that.  But still … there is so far to go.  I worry a lot about my son who is also trans.  Will he be safe, will he find his way in the world.  I know that my daughter lives in a world where walking down the street and holding her partners hand is an act of defiance.  When I think about that it blows my mind.  An act of defiance. That is just not right.

So my act of defiance in this world is to lead a Religious Education program where children are accepted.  Where I do not ask their gender.  I do not ask who they are dating.  I ask them instead what is important to them.  I ask them to tell me about their dreams.  I ask them to put their shoulder to the wheel and world a better place.

I hope that when they are older they will pass on their UU values to their children, or their nieces/nephews, or the children who they meet.  And I hope they share their UU values with other adults too.  Because really when I look around our kids get it.  It is us adults who need to learn to love each other.